News & preggo finally let me take a pic. lol
This week has been pretty hectic for me. Ariel went into labor but they stopped it because she is only 32 weeks. Dehydrated..bladder infection…most likely the causes but they dont feel like she will make it til December because the baby is so low & putting so much pressure on her. She was already dilated..not quite to 1. She finally let me take a couple of pics…
Isnt she cute?! 
I went to the doctor and he suggested I try some OTC Zantac or Pepcid before he puts me on anything. He did however give me a prescription for Xanax. He gave me the lowest dose they make. I haven’t taken any yet. Just been toughing it out. I tried talking to hubby last night & the night before about my emotional eating & my ulcers. He acted like this was the first time I mentioned it. (oh & he says he isnt moving now) I dont think he understood. I have never been overweight in my life…until I married him and all the crap started. Even with my thyroid issues I managed to keep it in check. He yelled at me & said I was avoiding him because I went to the treadmill instead of eating. I usually try to get on the treadmill way before he gets home. He expects me to shower with him..go to bed when he does…sit with him the whole time he is home yet he wants his lunch made & his tea containers filled. I dont know what to do with him. I love him but I am tired. Tired of him drinking every single day. The more he drinks, the more of an a** he becomes. I cannot tell you how many times I have had to drag his body into the house or how many times he fell asleep outside. He hasn’t done those things recently but it sticks in my mind…ya know waiting for the next time. He is rude to my oldest….always bringing up things she has done..teenager things..but wont let it go.
Sorry I’m rambling but this is what I deal with everyday……..
XML Feed
She’s darling!!!!
I don’t know about your husband. My friend just married a guy who drinks everyday. It is HARD. They have to want to stop otherwise it’s pointless.
Xanax is ok but I am not a big fan. It’s like a bandaid, I prefer to put people on antidepressants that are also antianxiety so they never get to that point where they need a xanax. Xanax only works for a couple of hours. Just don’t be upset if it doesn’t work that well…
Hi babe!!! Love the photos I’m so excited about them
On to the other stuff, I wish there was something we could do to help you out, if he is treating you or the kids badly I’m sure you can have him taken out of there for a night, its a start! And it will look better when you file for divorce. I don’t know what else to say!
It ate my comment!!
awww sweetie
The drinking I can so relate. Tony used to drink heavily for years and hid it from me. he drank vodka so I won’t smell it. well he always drank too much and passed out. So I know what you are going through. All I can say I am praying for him that he realizes what he is doing and want to change..
Hang in there it always gets better. he will see what a wonderful wife you are. Many would not put up with this but you are sticking through the rough times
WE all need to ramble sometimes. I wish I had wise words to give you, but lucky no one in my family drinks. My hubby’s dad use to have a problem but it was taken care of before I was part of the picture. All I really know to say is hang in there and I am always here to listen.
You are a very strong woman. My husband recently quit drinking, and I don’t know which is worse. Him being buzzed all of the time or him being mean because he wants a drink so bad. All I can say is what you are going through is hard and each situation is unique. Just remember that things always get better. Live for the good times and the joy that the new baby will bring. Hopefully he will get help soon.
I have talked to him for 15 years about getting some help. He says there is nothing wrong with him. His dad is an alcoholic too. But I know what you mean about which is worse…..if it tries to stop drinking for even a day or so, he is a complete monster. But now its to the point even if he drinks, he is being rude & hateful.
Thank you all for your kindness. It means alot to me to have friends here. I am not allowed to have friends in the “real” world.
Oh, I love the pics….now she can show that baby after she’s grown up and say–see, this was you. lol. I hope she can make it til her due date or as close as she can.
Girl, I dont have any advice about hubby. However, I’m a bitch enough–I would have left his butt outside if he got drunk out there–especially if he’s rude and hateful.
I just hope that things turn around for you–whatever that may be. You deserve to be treated with respect and loved. There are lots of men who would love a good woman like you.
She is soooooooooo adorable and beautiful!
I’m glad we all have each other here Tiffany. I value your friendship so much.
I am so very sorry to hear about how your husband is handling himself right now, I dont have any words of wisdom for you there except that God is big enough… He can open and close doors in anyone’s life..YOur daughter is beautiful even if she doesnt feel that way right this minute. I am keeping her in my prayers that this wee one waits til its due date! They told me 4-6 ounces of water every 30 minutes to an hour.. I thought I would float away, but it helped with the dehydration problems! Keeping your entire family in my prayers!
(((HUGS))) I am glad the doc is trying OTC stomach stuff first, hope it works. You are in my thoughts and prayers hon. Hope your husband gets the help he needs, and sees how lucky he is to have your love.
Wow I can really relate, my Dad was a similar type of alcoholic and often made unreasonable demands on my mother.
Growing up like that I just sort of asssumed that his way was the only way…
I hope the meds work for you, Tiffany and keep reminding ariel to drink her water, she needs a lot now!!!
I am so sorry you are going through this. Somehow, I agree with somemansdream. I’m not saying to be spiteful or anything, but sometimes it takes tough love to get through to people. You talked to the hubby for 15 years and he’s saying it ain’t that bad. Maybe it’s because, he doesn’t remember what happens when he sobers up. What you should do, is leave him outside asleep, when he is too drunk to make it inside, and when he wakes up and look around, then he just might realize how bad things really are. I know it will be hard for you to let your sweety sleep outside, but he chose to drink and get so drunk that he can’t protect himself, judge his family. Try it once and see what happens. If he gets upset and say you let him sleep outside, you can simply tell him, you never made it home lastnight, because, “technically” he didn’t. I guess this could be a start. You won’t have to fuss at him and he would be 100% responsible for his actions.
As for the picture above, she has such a cute belly there. Did the doctor put her on bedrest? I can’t imagine what she’s going through, pressure and all from the baby. That sounds so uncomfortable and to have to remain like that for another 1-2 months?? Oh, no!!! Girl, I know she can’t wait to deliver her baby.
My dad was the same way. He knew that mom did not like his drinking so if he was going to get slammed he just wouldn’t come home, he never called or anything and then wondered why everyone was mad when he wandered home a day or two later. In my experience these type of people do not change, it is easier to live life without having them around. Dad hasn’t lived with us for 2.5 yrs (he went on a drinking binged and was gone, without calling, etc. for 2 weeks, last straw) and it was been so much better without him.
Your daughter is beautiful!